I’ve had the worst luck with dating lately, and I’m really starting to wonder what I’m doing wrong.
There’s one pattern that keeps happening over and over. A lot of the time, the guy comes on strong first and shows a lot of interest, while I’m the one keeping my distance and staying a little guarded. But as we keep talking and getting to know each other, if he starts checking my mental boxes, I begin to get more interested. Eventually it gets to the point where I’m fully invested, excited, and comfortable enough to be completely myself with him.
The thing is, I know I can be intense. When I care about someone, I make it known. I can make a person feel deeply wanted and special because that’s genuinely how I feel, and I don’t really know how to hold back once I’m there. Unfortunately, that always seems to be the point where the guy starts pulling away, and sometimes he fades out completely.
So it ends up feeling like the less interested I am, the more interested they are. But the more interested I become, the less interested they seem to be.
This has happened to me so many times over the past few months that I’m starting to feel like something is wrong with me.
I’d really appreciate any male perspective that might help shed some light on this for me.